Tuesday, September 22, 2009

It just isn't the same!

Another Blast from the Past!


This weekend of the many many things I did, I also met with one of my closest friends from Bangalore! I was meeting her after a couple of years. Strange, I was in B'lore till about 5 months earlier and we hadn't met once. And now, in another place, another place in life we meet.


You cannot help but notice how much the other person has changed from the last time you met them. We used to be "best friends" in school. We used to do everything together, used to tell everything to each other. There wasn't a single thing about each other that we didn't know. We even fell in "love" (who knows what love was when they're in class 9-10) with the same guy! :P :). Yes, it did create an awkwardness later; but we worked it out. Then, something happened. Till this day, I have no idea regarding what the something was, but the events that followed that "something" was very disturbing to my entire being, that we drifted apart.


After class 10 we were in different junior colleges, and the worlds we lived in were very apart. Most of my friends/fellow school mates were together with me in junior college, and everyone knew we used to be best friends, and everyone always asked me how she was doing, what she was doing and those other questions people always ask during small talk. Yes, we were in touch again, and we knew what the other was doing, but it wasn't the same.

I had many many many other friends, and so did she. We met few times, we updated each other about all major events in life like - getting asked out, saying yes, examination results, winning the dance competition, buying a new two wheeler, breaking up, getting back, health of family, what our brothers are doing, and wishing each other on birthdays, new years, valentine's and friendship days. But, it wasn't the same. There was a proverb which she had told me when we were in class 8 - "Friendship is like a vase, once broken can be rejoined, but the crack remains!" I tried very hard to correct it, to make things back to how it was, I couldn't.



Now, after 7 years of not being "best friends" to still be able to connect with each other feels wonderful! Busy in lives of our own, to take time out, sit by the sea with the waves hitting the shore and the wind touching your cheek ever so softly and sharing thoughts and ideas about life is a peaceful feeling.


the two of us with the sea was in front of us :)


Today, I am happy it isn't the same. Because if it was, then we couldn't have experienced something so beautiful. The best part still, is to be able to sit with each other, not say a thing, and still feel the other persons presence. We aren't those girls who used to stand next to each other in the assembly in school every morning; we aren't those who sit next to each other at lunch every afternoon; we are not the girls who walk around the school campus dragging the cycle every evening; well, not anymore! But we still are those girls who at the end of every telephonic conversation fight about who's going to cut the call, and then alternatively say 1,2,3 and simultaneously "bye" and cut the call together - something we have been doing from when we were in class 4!! :) :D

Happy Tuesday Everyone!!

20 comments:

  1. i wonder why i would be interested to read your personal journal..

    reminds me of big brother at times :)

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  2. everything matures...so does friendship.....what was nice abt ur post is that every1 can relate to it...good work

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  3. This one was good to read... ;)

    i liked the prover too.. tats it can be rejoined but the crack remains.. wow.. nice

    haf fun
    Anoop

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  4. Awww. It is amazing how we come full circle in our friendships like that, isn't it? :-)

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  5. I think it's really common for friendships to go through that, and it really is a part of growing up/getting older. I have a friend, Lisa, who I love dearly- but we aren't nearly as close as we were. I'm married with kids, she's getting married in April and doesn't want kids. We're at different places in our life, but we still get together once a month for lunch. Which is actually tomorrow. And I love our lunches- we have a great time, and I still love her to bits. :)

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  6. i love this. i have a few friends that this happened with and to reconnect with them on another level is so amazing. im so glad you met up with her again!! xoxo :)

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  7. touche...lovely post...hope ur friend reads this...


    btw... u r tagged..:D

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  8. I feel like I've spent so much of my life reconnecting with people! It's crazy. I suppose moving around opens up that opportunity much more. And you're right, with some friends it totally comfortable even after long gaps and with others there's a bit of starting trouble, but once you get the ball rolling, it usually turns out to be not so bad. :) In fact, I'm meeting up with a friends from 8th grade next weekend, haha, it's been AGES since we last met. Should be exciting. :)

    PS - Welcome to DS. :)

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  9. Its kind of strange, sometimes when I look back at the friends you have in school & you are not the same anymore, you do realize that most of the times its almost nothing you drifted away for, I guess life matures you to an extent, of when you look back you realize it. And, then BANG, u bump into them & it feels great that even after a couple of years & a lot of alcohol you still feel great...

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  10. Life really is about coming together with certain people, drifting, reconnecting and sometimes not reconecting, and connecting with different people. I think this is how we find out about ourselves. Through the eyes of others.

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  11. Deeps, if you don't mind me saying, that post was deep! I just loved it. It bought a small tear to my eye, it really did. Sometimes people are friends for a reason, sometimes for just a season but you two are real friends that survived the trials of growing up and apart and coming together again in a more adult way. I just loved reading this piece. More please!!

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  12. Friendship is really a boon.Sometimes I sit and wonder how difficult it would've been to go through life without having someone to share your happiness or grief with. :)
    Anyway I've a li'l something for you at my blog.Go check!

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  13. Yes, people really drift apart. I'm like that with a few best friends here too. They have their pown lives, activities and best friends know. So when we meet again and catch up, I really appreciate it. I know things cant be the same but at least you don't lose them completely, you know what I mean?:)

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  14. that is sucha cute post...hope ure frns forever..coz havin a best-frn kinda frnship broken is relle hard to bear!!

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  15. It happens... you suddenly don't have time to meet your best school buddies... and u make excuses... for not being able to meet... and when you meet, you talk nineteen to the dozen and go all nostalgic...nahi? :-s

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  16. Really nice article...spcly ur last paragraph..I could vrery well relate to it....something rly similar hs hpnd wid me too..... I guess it happens..... once u r out of school u meet different people n frndship does drift...!!! Bt itsd gr8 if u meet up after long time n can connect back... :)

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  17. well written deeps! bangalore friend huh? it's good that u guys got time to catch up with each other after a long time

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  18. Thanks for linking me back to this post. I think in your situation, even though you don't know exactly what it was that made you two drift, it could have been something as simple as just changing. People tend to do that every now and then :)

    I'm so glad that you guys got to meet up again. I'd love to know what the status of you two is now, nearly a year since this post!

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  19. @Katie! Its wonderful now.. we keep giving career advice to each other..! :P

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